Hey there, Steve here and welcome to this week’s private eye post where I’ll aim to answer the question, “Is he cheating, or am I paranoid?”
Just this last week, a wife came to me for our cheating spouse investigations service. She was extremely unsure of herself. She couldn’t quite put her finger on why she suspected her husband of cheating. She simply had a strong gut instinct that something was wrong.
She had no concrete evidence her husband was up to no good. She felt like something had been going on for over six weeks, and had failed to uncover the truth. By the time she contacted me, she was desperate for answers.
While she started speaking with me, I could tell she was feeling paranoid. During our initial conversation, she sprinkled in questions such as…“Am I being mad?”, “Am I mental?”, “Is this normal?”, “What other reasons for his behaviour could there be?” and then I heard her say, “Is he cheating, or am I paranoid?”
It occurred to me that many of my clients probably feel the same way. (Even when they don’t give voice to their feelings of paranoia so clearly.) I also know many cheating spouse clients feel a little guilty about investigating their partner without having any proof.
So, the aim of this post is two-fold: To show you the sorts of things which trigger gut instinct and to help lessen your feelings of guilt and paranoia by giving you guidelines for when it’s right to contact us.
Simply follow the 3 steps below…
Disclaimer: This information is for general educational purposes only and may not apply to all situations — everyone is unique after all. For help with an individual situation, please contact us —the first call is free, and we may just be able to put your mind at rest!
#1 Watch The Cheat’s Clock
Every cheating husband has to make time for his affair. Not only that, he also has to construct believable lies to account for his “fling time.” Whether he’s been working late a lot, or out with the guys every night, the change that’s likely triggering your gut instinct is you haven’t been spending much time together.
Take a look at these two posts. If this describes your situation then call and speak with me (it doesn’t cost you anything.)
#2 Look For The Common Tactics Of A Cheating Husband
When a husband cheats, there are a number of tactics he must use to maintain his affair. He needs to: stay in contact with the other woman, meet up with her to “do the dirty”, keep it a secret (from you and other people), and cover his tracks.
Take a look at the not-so-surprising tactics of cheating spouses post. Recognise anything? If so, call me for a chat—you’re not being paranoid. (The call is free.)
#3 Spot The Strange Behaviours
The most probable trigger of your gut instinct are changes in your husband’s behaviour. Changes that you don’t understand. These changes can be in the way he talks, the way he moves, or how he acts.
Take a look over these posts on the common verbal, body language and other signs of cheating. If you’re seeing any of these signs in your marriage call me for a chat on how I can help. (It’s free!)
Hopefully, this post has helped you answer the question burning in your mind, “Is he cheating or am I paranoid?”
If you’re spotting the signs that something is wrong, and your gut instinct has kicked into overdrive, then please don’t stress out and feel guilty. Call me for a chat (again, it’s free)—I may be able to put your mind at rest in our very first call—and we’ll take it one step at a time.
Until next week,