Hey there, Steve here and welcome to this week’s private eye post where I’m going to open up and share 4 terrible cheating truths no-one ever tells you—the stuff no-one wants to hear.
Every day, I see families torn apart by the nefarious activities of a husband or wife. I see people’s relationship dreams shattered like a window with a brick thrown through it. The shock and betrayal of a cheating partner hits hard, and most relationships don’t survive the aftermath.
Disclaimer: This information is for general educational purposes only and may not apply to all situations — everyone is unique after all. For help with an individual situation, please contact us —the first call is free, and we may just be able to put your mind at rest!
#1 Once A Cheat Always A Cheat?
The big question everyone asks, “Is it true that people who have cheated before are more prone to cheating in the future?”
Now, there are two different ways you can look at this. The first is if your partner has cheated on you before. The second is if they have they cheated on someone else before.
There’s also the question around how serious the relationship is—from younger people who are still “finding” themselves, to older, married couples.
Lots of research has been conducted in both of these areas. Younger people in less committed relationships are far more likely to cheat in the first place, compared with married couples. (Around 45% versus 20% respectively.)
But the figures get a lot worse for people who have previously cheated—according to one study, they are three times more likely to repeat their cheating behaviour in a future relationship.
A common situation I come across is where a man/woman has a secret relationship with someone who is married (or in a committed relationship.) Then the married person leaves their wife/husband for that person. Now they’re in a relationship with someone they know has cheated in the past—because they were the “other person.”
My experience tells me the likelihood of cheating in this new relationship is sky-high. And so do the research figures.
#2 If It’s Secret, It’s Cheating!
People have very different views on what’s cheating and what’s not cheating. Is it a bit of harmless flirting, or is something more sinister going on? After all, what harm is there in messaging someone compared with physical intimacy?
Most cheats don’t walk up to people they meet (and like the look of) and ask them if they want to have sex. It just doesn’t work that way. Usually, there’s some kind of lead-up to a full-blown affair and it begins with micro-cheating.
There’s a reason the workplace is a breeding ground for adultery—its because you can get to know someone else over a longer period of time, share personal experiences, and strengthen bonds.
So, if it’s something you keep secret, and you wouldn’t want your partner/spouse to know about it, then it’s cheating.
#3 The Double Whammy.
You’re really not going to like this one…
A 2017 study of sexual behaviour followed just under 500 participants over a long period of time.
People who were cheated on in their first relationship were twice as likely to report they were cheated on in their second relationship.
#4 Cheating Is Rife!
It used to be that men were much more likely to cheat than women. Research now backs up what I’ve been experiencing for years here at Elite Investigations. Women are just as likely to do the dirty as their male counterparts.
Emotional affairs are also on the rise. Quite often, we get called in to investigate a cheating spouse, only to discover they’re not having a physical relationship but are still spending their time (either in real life or online) with a significant other.
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Until next week,