Uncovering The Not-So-Surprising Tactics Of Cheating Spouses?

Hey there, Steve here and welcome to this week’s private eye post. Today, I’m going to share with you some of the tactics we regularly uncover with our cheating spouse investigation services.

We’ll take a look at the differences between men and women who are cheating, and how to spot if you may be a victim.

Disclaimer: This information is for general educational purposes only and may not apply to all situations — everyone is unique after all. For help with an individual situation, please contact us or use the live chat feature [when available] on this page—the first call is free, and we may just be able to put your mind at rest!


#1 Staying In Touch Tactics

Your partner has to be able to contact the person they’re having an affair with. My experience shows both men and women use a second email address to stay in touch with their lovers. Men, more commonly than women, will also store their fling’s number as an alias in their phone.

It’s no wonder one common sign of cheating is becoming highly protective of mobile devices.


#2 Need For Secrecy Tactics

Typically, I find that men keep their affairs completely secret, never sharing the details of their cheating with anyone. By contrast, about a third of our cases where the woman is cheating, we find they have told a friend and use that friend as a cover story when they meet up with their lover.

The financials are also an area where men and women differ. About 1 in 5 of the men who cheat have set up a second bank account for their “cheating expenditures.” And about 1 in 6 have even gone so far as to have an apartment they can use for the extramarital meet-ups.


#3 Covering Tracks Tactics

More than half the men we follow use work as their cover story, whereas the women’s most popular excuse is an evening out with the girls. This is followed closely by women claiming they need some “me time”, such as a massage, spa treatment, or even something as simple as a shopping trip.

Women are also much more concerned with covering up their appearance post their affair activity. About 1 in 4 keep an “infidelity grab bag” of makeup, toothpaste and perfume on them. Plus they’re more likely to keep a change of clothes ready to do, and her gym membership might just be an excuse so she has somewhere to shower in secret.


#4 Meet Up Tactics

All cheaters need somewhere to “do the dirty.” Here many cheaters simply are not that imaginative—cheap hotels are common.

Even worse, we often discover cheats use their marital home and bed for their adulterous trysts. So, if you spend time away on business trips or a holiday with the boys or girls, it’s a perfect time for your cheating partner to make use of the safety of home.

We have also frequently discovered cheats using disabled toilets, cars and secluded spots outdoors for their nefarious activities.



Although perhaps none of these tactics are unsurprising, we’ve seen a huge uptick in the reasons we get called out to investigate the possibility of cheating.

We’re getting more clients who are checking the person they’re dating really is who they say they are. Online dating has made it much easier for people to have an affair in the first place. So, we’re often called in to investigate a new partner—is the man you recently met really single? Or does he have a wife and kids at home while he’s playing away with you?

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Until next week,