Signs Your Husband Is Having An Affair — Yes, He’s Cheating!

Hey there, Steve here and welcome to this week’s private eye post where we’ll be taking a look at the common signs your husband is having an affair.

Obviously, whenever we’re called to investigate a cheating husband, the client (wife) has some kind of suspicion her partner is cheating. Sometimes this is because the husband has told a lie about something, such as his whereabouts, or something he’s doing or saying isn’t adding up. But typically, most wives have a feeling (gut instinct) that something is wrong.

So, if you feel like something isn’t quite right with your marriage, pay attention and see if you can spot the signs below. If you can, it might mean he’s cheating but it also might mean he’s hiding something from you. (Sometimes guys do that in an effort to protect their wife, so it might not be all bad news!)

If you think something is wrong, the best thing you can do is to call us to investigate for you.


Disclaimer: This information is for general educational purposes only and may not apply to all situations — everyone is unique after all. For help with an individual situation, please contact us —the first call is free, and we may just be able to put your mind at rest!


#1 The Happy Chappy

What you’re looking for here is a change in his state of happiness. If he’s been walking around for the last 6 months as if he’s carrying the weight of the world on his shoulders but now he’s as playful as a puppy and cracking jokes left, right and centre, then something has changed.

His outlook on life must have shifted perspective if suddenly everything feels so wonderful. If you don’t know the reason for this change it’s time to try and work out when things changed.

Now, the reason could be something that was causing him stress has now been resolved. But it could also be that he’s feeling attractive and wanted because of an affair.


#2 Emotional Distance

Nearly everyone struggles to be emotionally intimate with more than one person at the same time. Most husbands who stray struggle with the guilt of their cheating and one of the easiest ways for men to deal with this is to create space from their wife. So, if he’s become emotionally distant, your conversations are just day-to-day chatter and nothing intimate, and he avoids being alone with you, then clearly something is wrong.

In fact, emotional distance is one of the top giveaways of a cheating husband.


#3 Timing Is Off

Besides the emotional burden of cheating guilt, there are two problems every cheating husband needs to solve. The first is being able to create time for their affair and the second is being able to construct believable lies to account for this time they have created.

See these posts on how to use the clock to detect a cheating partner, common excuses used by cheats to get out of the house, and tactics of cheating spouses.


#4 Defender Bender

Being overly defensive is a common sign displayed by cheating husbands, especially when being asked about their whereabouts or behaviour.

“Why the interrogation?” “What difference does it make where I was?” “I watched the match at Paul’s house—call and ask him if you don’t believe me!”

These types of responses are associated with cheating. And if your husband comes out of nowhere and accuses you of cheating in the middle of his “defender bender” it’s a surefire sign he’s up to no good.



Remember, all of these signs your husband is having an affair can be for reasons other than cheating. Plus, they should be behaviour changes. If your husband has always been overly defensive for example, then it might not mean much.

But in general, if your husband is displaying one or more of these signs, there’s much more likelihood of him doing the dirty on you.

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Until next week,