Is My Wife About To Start An Affair?

Hey there, Steve here and welcome to this week’s private eye post where we’ll take a look at the signs that your wife is about to start an affair.

As I’ve mentioned in other posts, married women generally begin to cheat by getting caught up in an emotional affair. This means she’ll be speaking intimately and sharing parts of her life with another person, which go way beyond the boundaries of a typical friendship.

There’s no doubt that her taking the next step and moving into physically cheating is a critical point. If you can spot these signs, you might just be able to save your marriage before it’s too late.

Let’s go over what to look for if you think this is happening…


Disclaimer: This information is for general educational purposes only and may not apply to all situations — everyone is unique after all. For help with an individual situation, please contact us —the first call is free, and we may just be able to put your mind at rest!


#1 Emotional Vacancy

Are you and your wife meeting each other’s emotional needs?

This is easy to ascertain…

Do you and your wife share intimate details of your lives? What’s happened to you both during the day? How these things make you feel?

Are you both open and honest with each other about the things you do when you’re apart?

Do you share time together doing things you both like? Or is she out with friends, while you have your poker night?

If you’re honest with yourself, you’ll know if these things are missing in your marriage.

When they are, it’s highly likely your wife is satisfying her emotional needs with someone else.


#2 Absent Sex Life

If she’s seriously considering having sex with someone else, she’s unlikely to feel like having sex with you. Somehow it will feel emotionally “wrong” to her.

So, if it’s been a while since you were intimate in bed and intimate emotionally, there’s definitely cause for concern.


#3 Lack Of Attention

Does she seem uninterested in your day-to-day life? Is she happy enough in her own way, but you’re not sharing happy times together?

Do you feel like the conversation is muted?

Sure, she’ll engage with you to answer perfunctory questions but there’s no real interest from her about what you’re up to?

Does she avoid eye contact with you? Not in the way of “I can’t look at you” but rather she’ll continue what she’s doing while speaking with you. In other words, not fully engaging with you when you speak.

It’s because her mind is elsewhere.


#4 Time With Likely Lovers

For your wife to be able to even contemplate taking things physical, she has to work out some logistics.

Besides being able to arrive home not looking like she’s just had sex, she has to have time with the other person.

Ask yourself, “Who could that other person be?”

There are 4 most likely lovers for your wife to cheat with, and you need to think if she’s spending a lot of time with one of them. (Or at least where those possibilities lie.)

Once you figure that out, if things haven’t turned physical yet, you can try to do things together during those times. (Much more difficult of course, if it’s somebody at work.)



If you pay attention, you’ll be able to spot when things have turned physical by looking for signs of guilt.

If you see them, and you want to find out for sure, you can hire us to be your private investigator.


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Until next week,