Signs Your Wife Is Having An Emotional Affair

Hey there, Steve here and welcome to this week’s private eye post where we’ll be taking a look at the signs your wife is having an emotional affair.

At the time of writing, the Melbourne lockdown is in full swing — bouncing between stage 3 and stage 4 restrictions. A lot of relationships, and even previously seemingly strong marriages, are being put to the test in the pressure cooker environments lockdown creates.

It’s difficult for anyone to physically cheat but this is the exact sort of situation where emotional cheating can begin to flourish if left unchecked.

In this post, we’ll take a look at the emotional affair stages, and the signs of emotional cheating in a relationship before an emotional affair turns physical.


Disclaimer: This information is for general educational purposes only and may not apply to all situations — everyone is unique after all. For help with an individual situation, please contact us —the first call is free, and we may just be able to put your mind at rest!


#1 Stages of Emotional Affairs

Shirley Glass has well-documented research on her website about the stages of emotional affairs. Stage 1 is platonic friendship, Stage 2 is intimate friendship with an insecure marriage, and then Stage 3 is the emotional affair with an emotionally detached marriage.

The stages can easily be summarised by the feelings which mark the boundary crossover of each stage.

At Stage 1, although there may be some attraction between the two parties, neither have the intention to turn the friendship into an affair.

Stage 2 is when either party starts hiding parts of the relationship from their spouse.

And Stage 3 is when there’s a sexual spark and things become much more secret.


#2 How Emotional Affairs Start

Most emotional affairs start at work.

This is because everyone is at Stage 1 – just friends with no intentions to cheat.

Interactions between potential affair candidates are part of the everyday routines. (Affairs between couples who are friends start for much the same reason.)

But when it comes to a cheating wife, a common reason for her to begin an emotional affair is that she feels isolated and lacking human connection.

So, if you’re cooped up with your wife but things aren’t good between you and her, it’s time to become more emotionally intelligent. Find ways to do things together that allow you to spend quality time with each other.


#3 The Signs Your Wife Is Already Having An Emotional Affair

When relationships start it’s a time of exploration and discovery of each other. Think back to when you met your wife. You probably had the same thing. Telling your life stories. Recounting memorable moments. Sharing how you felt about things that happened to you on a daily basis.

Has that stopped in your marriage?

Just because it’s stopped between the two of you, doesn’t mean your wife isn’t spilling these things out to someone else.

With this in mind, it’s easy to work out what the signs of an emotional affair are — messaging/talking to someone, feeling like the spark is gone from your marriage, hiding her phone from you, and her not telling you about what she’s up to. And a genuine lack of intimacy from your conversations.


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Until next week,