Hey there, Steve here and welcome to this week’s private eye post – the first of the New Year. While it’s never a good time to find out that your partner is cheating on you, it can feel especially tormenting during the holiday season.
Today we’ll take a look at those obvious body language signs of cheating, and if you think you’re spotting them in your spouse, please don’t hesitate to get in touch.
Disclaimer: As always, this is general educational advice. For help with an individual situation, please contact us or use the live chat feature on this page.
#1 The Face Mismatch
We’ve all seen a fake smile. The lips move, but the eyes don’t move enough to make even the smallest of creases. Unless your partner has had some kind of injectable (like Botox) recently, then they aren’t really smiling. This can also manifest as exaggerated eye movement without any kind of lower face expressions. The top half of the face simply isn’t congruent with the bottom half. A face mismatch like this means what they’re saying or doing isn’t genuine.
#2 The Body Turn
Guess what someone really wants to do when they aren’t happy with your line of questioning? That’s right; they want to make it stop or get away from it as quickly as they can. So, when your partner isn’t comfortable with what you’re saying to them, they may turn their body away from you. In the industry, we call this the ‘body turn’.
#3 Becoming Cross
You have to interpret this one carefully, but we’ve all seen people get defensive and as a result cross their arms or legs. When you spot any kind of defensive stance uptaken by your spouse, you should make a mental note when this changes to an open position and vice-versa. It can enlighten you as to where they feel threatened, and you can dig more in those areas.
#4 The Pull Away And/Or Obstacle Insertion
Similar to the ‘Becoming Cross’ and ‘The Body Turn’ this is when someone wants to literally ‘get away’ from you because of the conversation. Moving away from you, turning their feet away from you as if they’re about to run out of the door, or positioning an object between the two of you as a barrier are all dead giveaways.
#5 The Excessive Facial
Has your hubby suddenly acquired more facial expressions than Jim Carrey in Mask? If he has then beware – they could easily be a cover-up for his real feelings inside. Those of guilt, lies and shame because he’s cheating.
Yes, these are the obvious signs of cheating from a body language perspective but have no doubts – they are still displayed in almost all cases. They’re the usual reason people have a ‘gut-feeling’ about their partner cheating, because these actions are mainly about pulling away and speaking one thing while your body displays another.
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Until next week,