How would you deal with a cheating partner?

You may have your suspicions. You may be dying to find out the truth. That’s great, but what would you actually do if you found your partner cheating? Here are some of the more common reactions to finding out about a cheating partner or spouse.

After working on many cases in which we catch a spouse, partner, girlfriend or boyfriend cheating on their significant other, we’ve had to break the bad news to many a devastated client. Obviously it’s better to know than to be in the dark, but it can be a hard truth to learn. If you’re thinking of investigating a potentially cheating partner, prepare yourself for the bad news and think about how you might react. Below are some of the more common reactions.

If you never really expected to find out that your partner was having an affair, the news can come as a great shock. This may be hard to believe, after all, you have hired a private investigator to investigate your suspicions, but it’s very common for people to think they’re being paranoid, and the results will be that their fears are unfounded. In these situations, people can just be in complete shock. If you experience this, give yourself a few days to absorb the information. It may take a while before you can talk about it, let alone think of confronting your partner.

Sometimes, the news is too hard to bear completely. Sometimes people ignore the evidence and flat out deny that their partner is cheating. We’ve had people tell us that we must have made a mistake, or that there must be a good explanation for the damning surveillance footage. Hint: there rarely is. If you find yourself rejecting the truth, ask yourself why. Is it just something you don’t want to hear?

Finding out your partner is cheating is a horrible thing to learn. Often you have been together a very long time, and have many happy memories of your relationship before it went bad. The loss of trust, the tarnishing of the happy past and the horrible feeling of betrayal can really hit home. Feeling sad is a natural reaction to being cheated on, but if you’re feeling down for an extended period of time, or having trouble dealing with the situation, it’s always a good idea to seek help from a friend or professional.

This is an understandable, however very unproductive reaction. We’ve heard all sorts of verbal tirades, heard stories of passionate revenge and seen people fly off the handle when they see the proof of their partner’s infidelity. They say hell hath no fury like a woman scorned (although the men aren’t angels either!), and this side can come out when they find out the horrible truth. If you start to see red, take some deep breaths and try to focus on something else until you feel a little calmer. And for goodness sake, don’t do anything rash!

Despite the horrible nature of the truth, you deserve to know what’s going on behind your back. If you suspect your partner is cheating, give us a call on 1300 721 715 or email