No Small Matter — 4 Signs Of Micro-Cheating!

Hey there, Steve here and welcome to this week’s private eye post. Today I’m going to show you the signs of micro-cheating in a relationship.

“What’s micro-cheating?” you may ask, “Is this yet another type of cheating?”

Well, unfortunately technological advances have made micro-cheating the latest trend, and it’s much more prevalent than you may think. Micro-cheating is a culmination of small actions which would indicate someone is focused, emotionally or physically, on a person outside of their current relationship.

This typically manifests as downplaying the seriousness of your relationship to another person; sharing private jokes with someone else; secretly connecting with another guy/girl; or entering a code for their name in your phone. Some people might call this flirting. Some might call it emotional cheating.

Whatever “it” is, if it’s something you’re hiding from your current partner, then you know you’re doing something wrong. So, while it’s not out-and-out cheating, it’s the small things they really wouldn’t be happy about. Hence the term micro-cheating.

Here are the 4 most common signs your partner might be micro-cheating on you…

Disclaimer: This information is for general educational and entertainment purposes only. It might not apply to your relationship. Your partner may display all or none of these signs, whether they’re micro-cheating or not. For help with your individual situation, please contact us or use the live chat feature on this page.

#1 Mobile Cover Ups

The advent of the smartphone is what’s really enabled micro-cheating to spread so rapidly. It only makes sense then, that your partner will want to keep you away from their phone so you can’t discover their micro-cheating activities. If you find that your partner has become very protective of their device, it’s a sure sign they’re hiding something from you. Watch them next time they think you’re not looking while they use their phone. Can you catch them smiling or laughing at their screen? Do they tell you why? Are they sharing the *joke*?

If not, this is a double confirmation—something is definitely going on!


#2 Imagination Nation

Gut instinct is a powerful thing, In fact, it’s the main reason people contact us. They can’t always put their finger on exactly what has triggered their suspicions. They simply know something isn’t right and want us to investigate.

We typically find that they’ve tried to talk with their partner about their feelings of unease. And the answer their partner has given them is, “You’re imagining things.”

In any relationship, it’s important to be able to talk through things together. When your partner won’t speak with you about your concerns, and tells you that it’s your imagination, you should be doubly suspicious.

#3 No Hangouts Here

Forget Google. We’re talking real life hangouts here. Does your partner have a *friend* of the opposite sex that they always talk about? One way to find out if there’s something more going on, or at least that they’re harbouring secret feelings for, is to suggest that you all hang out together. If your partner always seems to find a reason for this not to happen, then you know there’s something more than friends going on.

#4 Time Vanishing

Time is the one thing that always helps to ascertain the likelihood of cheating in a relationship—whether that’s physical, emotional or micro cheating. In most relationships each person knows how the other person is spending the majority of their time. But if you start to know less and less about your partner’s day, you’ll likely discover there are reasons why. Instead of sitting idly by wondering what that is, our recommendation is to keep a journal. Time never lies!


Micro-cheating is on the rise. Gut instinct will play a much larger part in detecting if this is happening to you, because you won’t be able to catch your partner cheating red-handed. Keep a record of their actions, and before long you’ll have the evidence you need.

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Until next week,