4 Not-So-Obvious Signs Of A Cheating Spouse

Hey there, Steve here and welcome to this week’s private eye post where I’m going to highlight some signs of cheating that are obvious in hindsight but are easily missed at the time.

Usually, by the time someone hires us to investigate for a cheating spouse, they already have a strong suspicion that something is wrong. If you’re reading this, your gut instinct might be trying to tell you something. If you spot these signs, please don’t hesitate to get in touch.

Disclaimer: This information is for general educational purposes only and may not apply to all situations — everyone is unique after all. For help with an individual situation, please contact us—the first call is free, and we may just be able to put your mind at rest!

#1 The Late Late Show

This is nothing to do with Letterman. The main thing in all cases of cheating is it requires time. This means it requires the replacement of certain other activities. So, if you’re used to your husband or wife arriving home by 5 p.m. a sudden change in that routine might be a sign of cheating.

This is especially true when there’s no comment about why or what he or she is doing differently but simply starts returning at 5.25 pm, for example.

#2 The Laundromat

This one sounds heavenly. Imagine how wonderful a break it is for you if your hubby suddenly starts doing his own laundry, and dropping off / picking up his own dry cleaning?

Well, beware! It’s one of the most overlooked, classic signs of cheating. It’s how a cheating spouse can be sure to hide any incriminating physical evidence.

#3 Blackout Periods

It’s rare for any partner not to be able to respond quickly with at least a text message, even if you have to wait a few minutes while they finish speaking with someone. So, if your partner seems to have blackout periods—times when they are unreachable, uncontactable, untraceable—and there’s no viable explanation then you are right to be suspicious.

We see this a lot in our investigations, and typically it happens around the same time of day and/or days of the week. Almost like the cheater has a new routine to accommodate their fling.

#4 The Not-So-Extreme Makeover

It’s common for people who start an affair to start exercising, eat healthier, and dress better. The reason is they’re trying to appear more attractive to someone.

Lots of cheating victims are surprised at just how subtle this “makeover behaviour” can be. It doesn’t always mean huge sweeping changes, but rather consistent incremental improvements.

It’s especially true if your significant other looks the same around you but starts improving his or her outward appearance for work, or social events.


Cheating on a partner means changing routines—whether it’s to gain the time for the fling, or because there are new things swirling around the mind. So, make your observations and trust your gut instincts—they’re usually a good compass. Don’t hesitate to contact us if you need some help and reassurance.

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Until next week,