Hey there, Steve here and welcome to this week’s private eye post where we’ll be taking a look at the common signs she’s cheating with her ex.
In most cases of a cheating wife, there are four highly likely men who are her extramarital lovers.
One is her ex, and there are a number of reasons she may cheat on you with him.
Reason #1 — If it’s early in your relationship, and she just broke up with him, she may feel like she made a mistake and want to start over with him.
Reason #2 — If they were together for a long time, she may feel he understands her better than you do. Once she goes to him to “talk things through” one thing may lead to another, and from there it’s easily repeatable.
Reason #3 — She might be looking for sex and knows that it’s good with him.
Reason #4 — She might be trying to get revenge on the woman who stole him from her.
Reason #5 — She might be longing for the old days — we all look on the past with rose-tinted glasses, and she might be missing those “good times”
Reason #6 — Her ex may have been her true love but had a major problem — such as a drug or gambling addiction — that no longer exists, and she wants to find out if there’s a chance of it working now.
Whichever of these is her reason for cheating with her ex, it’s going to feel like a major kick in the nuts and emotions are likely to run high.
So, if you do spot any of these signs, please get in touch and let us find out for sure — that way you can make a rational decision on how best to proceed (especially if you’re married and have dependent children — we can put you in touch with the necessary legal and financial advisors.)
Disclaimer: This information is for general educational purposes only and may not apply to all situations — everyone is unique after all. For help with an individual situation, please contact us —the first call is free, and we may just be able to put your mind at rest!
#1 Facebook Buddies
Social media is a breeding ground for cheating — and this is never more true when it comes to cheating with an ex.
For starters, she’s likely to have some of the same friends as her ex, so even if she “unfriended” him a while ago, he’s likely to become a friend suggestion at some point in the future.
If she becomes (or remains) Facebook friends with him, there’s always the possibility of them having a chat at some point. Those chats can eventually lead to future infidelity.
Is she on Facebook a lot? (Especially at night time when she thinks you’re sleeping!)
Does she shut down Facebook when you’re around?
Is she posting “sexier than usual” pictures on social media?
Is there an absence of pictures of the two of you as a couple?
#2 Ex Talk
How does she talk about her ex?
Normally, women will talk about their exes when asked, even though they may find it uncomfortable to do with their current partner.
There are two behaviours which can be signs she’s cheating with him.
The first is refusing to discuss her ex with you, or immediately changing the subject to achieve the same result.
The other is she might talk about him a lot because he’s on her mind and either thinking about cheating with him or actually doing so.
Either of these can be a sign things are going on, although they might seem to be the exact opposites of each other.
In the same way that married men can start a fling with their ex-wife or girlfriend on the premise of going around to their house to fix something, a woman can be led into temptation when her ex breaks up with his partner and she provides him with emotional support — kind of like a therapist talking through things with him.
This can manifest as text and phone chats, or even visiting with him frequently to “make sure he’s OK.”
All this emotional support can quickly become something far more intimate.
We call it ex-therapy and it’s responsible for many of our cheating cases.
#4 Children Excuse
It’s always going to be difficult for any relationship if your wife (or girlfriend) has had children with their ex.
Ultimately, the ex will always be some part of their life so some compromising will have to take place on your part in this regard.
The thing to watch for is her using her children as an excuse to go and visit him that differs from what’s normal without any apparent reason to do so.
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Until next week,