In this post, we’ll explore the top 4 signs of long-distance cheating.
Over the short term, distance relationships seem perfectly manageable. But after long periods of being apart, feelings can change as both sides get on with their daily lives. Temptation can easily lead to flings or even long-term affairs.
Steve here and welcome to this week’s private eye post about this particular type of potential cheating spouse investigation we’re frequently called in to investigate.
Two of the most common scenarios of distance cheating are workers in the mining industry and defence force personnel being deployed overseas.
We get called for investigations by both sides—the worker who is away, and the person left at home. They can’t always put their finger on the exact reason they suspect something is awry, but they instinctively know something is wrong.
Let’s run through the four signs that might be triggering your gut instinct “warning bells.”
Disclaimer: This information is for general educational purposes only and may not apply to all situations — everyone is unique after all. For help with an individual situation, please contact us —the first call is free, and we may just be able to put your mind at rest!
#1 Not A Good Time
When people are working away from home, usually they’re not in full control of their schedule. Even when they agree pre-arranged times to call home, it may not always be possible to do so. When they are able to make the call, it’s perfectly natural for their spouse to be in the middle of doing something.
No problem. They can quickly answer, explain what they’re up to, and arrange to call back in a short while.
But if you call home and constantly get voicemail, you have to wonder why your spouse can’t give you the 20 seconds needed.
Sure, it may happen from time-to-time, but if the relationship is going under, this will be a frequent occurrence.
There will be more of the “not a good time” responses compared with the appropriate ones.
#2 No Face Time
Keeping a long-distance relationship should be easier today than it was years ago because of video calls.
It’s your opportunity to catch-up properly with your spouse and “see each other.”
But cheaters won’t like to do video calls, because they’re worried about their body language giving them away.
There are plenty of excuses for the person working away from home to justify using the phone. The WiFi signal is bad for the miners. The cost is too high for defence personnel deployed overseas.
But there are always ways for them to make video calls if they really wanted to. Find a good signal area, or use an overseas internet cafe, for example.
#3 Missing Chit-Chat
Couples can spend hours talking about little things that have happened to them, how they felt about it, making plans for the future and all the small, intimate things that are the building blocks of a solid relationship.
Sure, there are bound to be days when nothing much has happened in either of your lives, especially if you’re speaking to each other on an almost daily basis.
But, if your partner isn’t sharing as much as they used to every time you speak, then you have to wonder if they’re invested in your relationship, or if there’s some other reason.
#4 Call Length Dwindling
It’s perfectly natural for new long-distance partners to speak for quite some time each day when they are first separated. The pattern usually adjusts to a few quick “check-in” calls of around 10 minutes, and one or two longer calls each week.
But if you find that the frequency of those longer calls dwindles to less than once-a-week, or your partner doesn’t have much to say on those catch-ups, you should start to question the reason why.
This is probably one of the biggest signs of long-distance cheating.
Long-distance relationships are hard work. There’s no point in pretending otherwise. Making time for your partner is crucial, and you need to be realistic in how often you can talk together. It can feel worse if one partner is much busier than the other during the day too.
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Until next week,