Dating Skills #3 — How To Tell If He’s A “Marriage Material Man”

Hey there, Steve here and welcome to this week’s private eye post where I’ll go through the top four ways to see if he’s a “marriage material man.

There’s nothing wrong with looking to have a bit of fun, and if that’s where you’re at, we fully support that. But if you’re not interested in the “right now” kind of guy, and want to date with the possible intention of it leading to something more, these 4 signs are exactly what you need to be on the lookout for.

Besides looking into suspected cheating partners, one of our most commonly sought services is to background check someone at the start of a relationship. This makes sense. After all, who wants to invest valuable time and emotion into a partnership with someone who will turn out bad?

Disclaimer: This information is for general educational purposes only and may not apply to all situations — everyone is unique after all. For help with an individual case, please contact us or use the live chat feature [when available] on this page—the first call is free, and we may just be able to put your mind at rest!

#1 Positive Life Attitude

When someone is open and ready for a relationship, they’re imagining what a new life could be like. So, if his profile is filled with things he doesn’t want, for example, “No high-maintenance women,” or “If you work more than 50 hours, please don’t respond,” then you should steer clear. These types of comments are negative, and could simply be a reaction to what didn’t work in his previous relationship. This shows he’s not ready for any kind of commitment just yet—he’s stuck in the past right now.

#2 Maturity Values

They say that variety is the spice of life. If his profile is full of pictures of him going out every weekend with his mates living the party lifestyle? If so, then that’s what he spends the majority of his time doing. Is that what you really want? If you’re looking for a potential long-term partner, probably not. Instead, look at his profile. Is it full of a variety of interests? Is he ready to put time into a relationship as well? If so, there’s a much higher probability of his readiness to settle down.

#3 Settled Establishment

The truth is most guys don’t feel like they can settle in a relationship unless they are settled in their career. So, if he says things like, “I’m in the process of building my business,” or “I’m shifting into a new line of work,” then the odds are he’s not ready for a serious relationship.

#4 Time, Respect and Support

Once you start dating a new guy, how can you tell if he’s the one you should marry? There are many different facets to think about when answering this question, but there are three critical components. You must love spending time together. You must support each other in all areas of your life—careers, hobbies and friendships outside of your relationship. You must respect each other in both your thoughts and actions. When you’re not together, you shouldn’t be tempted to stray.


Think you found the perfect guy? If he’s ticking all the boxes and you feel like he could be “the one” it’s time to make sure. Hire us to do a full background check before you get too emotionally invested. It’s better to dig out his ugly past now than pay for it later.

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Until next week,