Hey there, Steve here and welcome to this week’s private eye post where we’ll take a quick run through some of the common things we hear husbands say to their wives when they’re cheating. If you suspect your husband is cheating on you, please don’t hesitate to get in touch with us so we can help you.
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#1 – Complement Confetti
Let’s face it, if you’re cheating on your wife you’re probably going to feel guilty about it. Most men who cheat do. With surprising high frequency, we often find the husband will assuage some of that guilt by being “nicer” to his wife. So,he starts sprinkling complements like confetti, especially in front of friends and family. If you don’t understand why he’s suddenly acting this way, your gut instinct should be to question the reason.
#2 – The Mysterious Woman Friend
Believe it or not, us humans find it hard to lie. Deceit does not come naturally. So your man might actually speak with you about the woman he’s cheating with. Of course, he won’t tell you he’s cheating. There will be some innocent story about a woman at work, and he’ll probably even mention her name. But if you query and question him, he’ll say she’s just a work acquaintance. There’s no way you’ll ever be able to meet her. Watch out if he mentions her in more than one story over a period of time.
#3 – You Are The Cheat!
This is so bad it’s wicked — a cheating husband will often accuse his wife of cheating. I guess it’s his way of deflecting the attention away from what he’s up to. But if this comes out of nowhere, and you have done nothing to arouse his suspicions, you should make a close inspection of what he’s up to.
#4 – Not Where You Said You Were
No-one can create time. So, all cheaters have to lie about what they’ve been doing in the time spent with the person they’re cheating with. The longer your husband’s affair continues, the more lies he has to tell you. Sooner or later it will come to light that he wasn’t where he said he was. The minute you discover something like this you have to ask the question, “Why would he say he was somewhere he wasn’t?” There’s only one answer — he didn’t want to tell you where he really was. OK, that doesn’t necessarily mean he is cheating, but something is awry. Tread carefully when you ask him what happened, and listen closely to his replies. He won’t be expecting to have to answer this question, so any lies or excuses will not be well thought out. He’s likely to trip up and give you more clues.
#5 – The Ultimate Verbal Crime
He calls you by her name. No matter what he says, he’s never making this right. There’s not an excuse yet invented to calm an angry wife who hears herself called by another woman’s name. And there probably never will be.
In isolation, each of these things could potentially be for some reason other than cheating. That’s why it’s important to look for other signs of cheating before you jump to any conclusions. Don’t hesitate to reach out to one of our friendly team if you want some help.
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Until next week,