Hey there, Steve here and welcome to this week’s private eye post where we’ll take a look at the top four signs your partner is guilty of being an emotional cheat.
This is a scenario we see unfolding all the time in our investigations. In fact, around 15-20% of our cheating spouse services discover the subject engaging in an emotional rather than full-blown affair. That’s not to say these cases wouldn’t have developed into something more — my research suggests around 50% of emotional affairs do turn physically intimate.
Emotional cheating typically begins when someone meets a new friend or co-worker. There’s an instant connection. Talk and texts flow naturally and deep down they know they’re flirting with each other. It’s exactly like the start of a promising new romantic relationship. There’s just one problem. They’re already married, or at least in a serious relationship.
In this case, it could be the start of an emotional affair. And if it’s your partner this could spell big trouble for your future together.
Here are the top four signs your partner has become an emotional cheat…
Disclaimer: This information is for general educational purposes only and may not apply to all situations — everyone is unique after all. For help with an individual situation, please contact us —the first call is free, and we may just be able to put your mind at rest!
#1 Withdrawal Symptoms
When someone is emotionally cheating, they’re heavily preoccupied with thinking about their new “friend.” All their mental energy is being invested in this new relationship. As a result, you’ll feel like your spouse is withdrawing from you. This will be on both emotional and physical levels and can mean less sexual intimacy too.
If you find yourself spending less and less time with your partner, and when you are together there’s no emotional or physical intimacy, your relationship is in the red danger zone. It’s highly likely they’re getting at least their emotional needs elsewhere.
#2 Mention Attention
Because the emotional cheat is directing so much mental attention to this new person, they will mention them more often than would be normal. You’ll hear them tell you about how they did this and how they did that. You’ll get the other person’s opinions on just about everything you talk about with your spouse. After a while you’ll be sick of hearing their name.
#3 The Mounted Defence
Are you finding it difficult to talk with your spouse? When you try and discuss any of these things with your significant other, are your efforts being met with what I call “a mounted defence“?
What’s a “mounted defence”?
It’s when your partner is highly protective of their actions. They’re unwilling to see your point of view and chat things through with you. They may even try and tell you you’re being crazy.
That’s when you know something is terribly wrong!
#4 “Double C” Behaviour
Lots of people want to know the difference between a genuine new friendship and the beginning of emotional infidelity. The answer is surprisingly simple — whether anything is being kept secret and hidden.
“Double C” behaviour is a term we use for people who are acting covert and keeping things classified secret. Covert and Classified.
This means they will finish a phone call as you enter the room. Lock their phone. Take their phone with them wherever they go. Shut down a computer screen suddenly.
If your partner has a case of the “Double C” then you will naturally want to find out why — call us and we can help you (your first call is free!)
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Until next week,