Digitally Cheating or Online Flirting?

Hey there, Steve here and welcome to this week’s private eye post. One of the natural trends we’re experiencing at Elite Investigations, is the increase in technology involved in cheating.

In today’s post I’m going to cover four  “tech involvement” signs you should look for, if you suspect your man of cheating. These are in addition to him being overly possessive about his phone, or even having a second phone. The cheating can be emotional as well as physical.

Disclaimer: This information is for general educational purposes. For help with an individual situation, please contact us or use the live chat feature on this page.


#1 Inside Joke Comments

Imagine you’re at a dinner party. A woman is talking to your husband, and it seems like they’re sharing inside jokes. They’ve obviously spoken before. There’s a level of intimacy that’s implied by their chat.

Only you’ve never heard of her.

And he’s never mentioned her, even in passing. Although we all have hundreds of “friends” on social media sites, you should start paying attention to his profiles.


#2 The Snap Off

Whenever you come across your fella on his phone, he instantly switches off from his device and puts it away. It might be when you wake up, or when you enter a room he’s in.


He has a reason for his action, and it’s because he doesn’t want you to see what he’s up to. Looks guilty as hell.


#3 Off Peak Dings

It’s strange how digital life has impacted the world. Just a couple of decades ago, if someone called you late at night, it would have felt weird.

Nowadays, many people take their phones to bed.

And it’s not just calls, it’s alerts, texts and a thousand other notifications. If it happens occasionally, all good.

But if it’s a regular occurrence during your nighttime routines, you may want to look into the reasons for the potentially unwanted interruptions.


#4 Lost

If your relationship has lost the fluidity of communication because he always seems to have his head buried in his smartphone, you’re not alone. It’s a source of constant friction in many relationships.

But if he never shares what he’s been texting back and forth for the last few hours, then you have every right to be concerned.



Whether he’s actually physically involved with someone, or if he’s just digitally flirting, the signs aren’t good for your relationship. You could try suggesting that you both use your phones less, in some sort of “keeping smartphone addiction under control” remedy to an article you’ve seen.

Try this one:

If you think it’s gone too far, and he may already be cheating, please don’t hesitate to get in touch. Your first call is free and handled in the strictest confidence.

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Until next time.