Is Your Spouse Cheating With A Friend? Signs A Man And A Woman Are Having A Relationship

Hey there, Steve here and welcome to this week’s private eye post, where we’ll cover the signs that a man and a woman are having a relationship.

We’re often called to investigate is to find out if a man or woman is cheating with someone they know. It’s an unfortunately common situation. A group of couples get together and enjoy spending time together as friends. Before you know it, strong bonds are forged between members of the group. But how can you tell when it goes too far, and two members of different couples have begun a secret affair?

Lots of cheating situations start like this. Friendships that blossom into a full-blown affair. But there are lots of clues you can pick up on, if you know what to look for. The signs that a man and a woman are having a relationship beyond friends.

Keep your eyes peeled for these four signs.

Disclaimer: This information is for general educational purposes only and may not apply to all situations — everyone is unique after all. For help with an individual situation, please contact us or use the live chat feature [when available] on this page—the first call is free, and we may just be able to put your mind at rest!

#1 Jealousy

People always do things for a reason. Even if that reason isn’t clear to you, there will always be a motive behind a person’s behaviour. When a man and a woman are having a secret relationship within the group, jealousy can be one of the easiest things to spot. Men are naturally competitive, and so he might try to upstage the husband of his mistress. She might try to change the subject whenever the wife of her fling talks about their relationship in a positive light.

#2 Love Expression

This one is the equivalent of the classic, “Honey I bought you flowers.” A cheating husband may express love and affection for his wife more often than usual. It all stems from feeling guilty.

#3 From Flirting To The Dead Zone

Changes in behaviour are always noteworthy — and this one is no different. It’s also quite easy to pick up on because once it happens it stays the same thereafter. Previously, you may have picked up on the cheating man and woman as being close. Often flirting with each other in ways that seem to go beyond what’s normal for friends. But if this closeness seems to disappear, then something has happened to change the situation. Guess what people do when they don’t want people to know something is going on? That’s right, they try to avoid giving anyone the slightest suspicion to look more closely at them — so they stop their flirting in front of the rest of the group. They can even seem cold towards each other.

#4 Looking Good

Everyone wants to look good in the eyes of other people. But over time, friends who get together often become more relaxed in each other’s company. Think about it. If you were going to a function where you only knew a few people, you’d spend time and effort getting ready, making sure you look your best. However, when you meet up with your group of friends for a casual dinner at your house, there’s no need to make quite so much effort. So, if one of the women in the group suddenly starts appearing like a million dollars at your get-togethers, wearing more make-up and fancy clothes, you have to question exactly who she’s trying to impress.


Groups of couples are one of the frequent ways for affairs to begin amongst the “friends.” But if you pay attention to the group dynamics, and understand there’s always a reason behind a person’s behaviour, you can easily spot the signs that a man and a woman are having a relationship that goes beyond friendship.

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