Hey there, Steve here and welcome to this week’s private eye post. Today we’ll take a look at four main ways a man’s body language changes when you test him for cheating.
Do you have a feeling that your husband is cheating? Or perhaps something inside is screaming “cheat” when you see the guy you’ve been dating for the last 10 weeks? You can’t put your finger on it, but something in your gut is setting off alarm bells.
The reason for this is your central nervous system is picking up on body language cues on a subconscious level. It’s your alert system, and it’s usually a highly accurate predictor that something is not right.
If your senses are tingling in this way, test for the 4 signs below to confirm your suspicions.
Disclaimer: This information is for general educational purposes only and may not apply to all situations — everyone is unique after all. For help with an individual situation, please contact us or use the live chat feature [when available] on this page—the first call is free, and we may just be able to put your mind at rest!
#1 The Self Soother Test
For starters, you don’t have to come right out and ask him directly if he’s cheating. Bring up the subject of fidelity by talking about a friend who just got cheated on. Pay attention to his next actions. Look to see if he starts self-soothing actions such as touching his hair, stroking his leg, rubbing his arms etc… This is a big sign. After all, why would he be anxious about someone else’s affair?
#2 The Palm Hiding Test
When people show you the palms of their hands, it usually means they’re telling the truth. But if he hides his palms (hands in pockets, under legs, or under the table) it’s a sign of dishonesty. Ask a question about faithfulness in relationships and see what he does. If you just mentioned about your friend who got cheated on, ask him why would a guy ever do that to his wife or girlfriend. Watch his hands…
#3 The Mouth Cover Test
Don’t stop there. Make sure you’re watching intently but discreetly to everything that he does when talking about fidelity. A carry-over from our early childhood days, many adults still cover their mouth in some way when they’re uncomfortable with what they’re saying. Watch for the movement of the hand towards the mouth — not specifically if the hand actually covers the mouth. He might end up scratching his nose or his eyebrow. It’s the movement that’s important.
#4 The Eye Pattern Test
Look to see if his eye patterns change when talking about touchy subjects. When he’s under the “stress” of having to think about a lie, it’s likely to be displayed by unusual eye behaviour. What’s happening underneath the hood, is his brain is working out how to respond with a lie. Thinking in a different way leads to strange looks. Keep an eye out for it!
You should never underestimate the power of your gut instinct which has evolved over thousands of years. For much the same reasons, body language is a strong predictor of truth and lies. Use these 4 tests to discover the truth in your relationship.
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Until next week,