Hey there, Steve here and welcome to this week’s private eye post. Without a doubt, we are living in unprecedented times. Coronavirus has impacted our lives from health and financial perspectives, and it’s also affecting our relationships in strange and unforeseen ways.
Lockdown is not our typical way of living — and where relationships were already strained, the current situation certainly isn’t helping.
In this week’s post, we’ll take a look at how spouses are continuing to cheat, even with the widespread measures put in place by federal and state officials.
Disclaimer: This information is for general educational purposes only and may not apply to all situations — everyone is unique after all. For help with an individual situation, please contact us —the first call is free, and we may just be able to put your mind at rest!
#1 Life Is Short — Have An Affair
This might be surprising to you. In 2019, Ashley Maddison (the dating site focused on affair making) averaged around 15,500 new members each day. You would think that with the new lockdown restrictions that this rate of sign-ups would dissipate somewhat. Not true. The site is exploding — growth is currently the highest it’s been for a long time, up to around 17,000 new members per day.
The fact that physical meetups are, let’s say difficult, doesn’t seem to be putting people off. In fact, the possibility of future infidelity seems just as exciting for new members as the act itself.
The Ashley Maddison tagline, “Life is short. Have an affair.” seems to be hitting the nerve of those who are looking to replace the missing “something” from their long-term relationship.
#2 Technology Check-Ups
With physical meet-ups impossible, or much harder to achieve than they were 3 months ago, this is going to seem blindingly obvious. If you suspect your partner is guilty of even just peering into the realms of infidelity, their technological devices are the best place to start looking for evidence.
Are they spending lots of time on their computer? Do you know what they’re doing while they’re online? Are they highly protective of their mobile devices? Are they getting random messages, seemingly a long time after sending theirs? (Being in lockdown means having to sneak around technology.)
Understanding what your partner is up to when they’re communicating with others can highlight potential areas for future cheating opportunities. Or perhaps, reveal what they’ve already been up to, and are promising to recommence when restrictions are lifted.
#3 Social Distancing Isn’t Meant For Home Life
When a person isn’t feeling invested in their relationship, it’s hard for them to maintain what everyone else would consider normal. So, if your partner leaves the room when you enter or prefers “alone time” much more than usual, it’s time to take a long hard look at your relationship.
This should be a time for solidarity. A time for family. An opportunity to take a break from life’s usually humdrum and spend quality time with each other. If that’s not happening for you, then it’s time to ask the big question — “Why not?”
#4 Physical Meet-Ups
Affairs can be enticing because the risk of being caught adds to the overall excitement. Add coronavirus into the mix and the stakes just got raised exponentially. Normally, meet-ups with the other man or woman involve lying about extended work hours, or excuses to visit the gym, and other solitary activities.
So the cheater has to be rather inventive if they want to hook up with their fling under the current circumstances. You may need to scrutinise their 30-minute “essentials buying” errands at 8 am. Cheaters take opportunities where they can find them.
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Until next week,