Hey there, Steve here and welcome to this week’s private eye post, where I’ll aim to answer the question, “Is my wife having an affair with someone at work?“
First of all, I have to say that cheating is much more common in the workplace than anywhere else. It happens all too frequently.
I would say that around 40-50% of the cheating cases we’re called to investigate involve a colleague. That’s not including emotional affairs, which would take the numbers even higher.
These figures aren’t surprising to me. We all spend the majority of our waking hours at work. And we work with people who have shared goals (the company’s success) and that we get along with.
Plus, being at work is a normal place for someone to be for 8 hours or more each day. How would a husband ever know if his wife was cheating at work?
Well, these four signs are a big clue that something is off.
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#1 Pattern Change
Everyone gets into routines. Humans thrive on them. You know your wife’s typical working routines as well as she does. So, the first sign something could be wrong is a change to her work patterns. Longer hours. Unexplained after hours meetings. More socialising with colleagues instead of coming home. Plus, if you’re no longer invited to work functions, this can also signify something is up.
#2 Mobile Secrecy
We live via our devices. Normally partners have no issues using each other phones. If she won’t let you near hers, or she rests her phone face down, and takes calls away from you, then this secrecy shows she’s hiding something. Another sign is taking work calls/emails/texts out of hours more often.
Women typically begin affairs emotionally before moving on to a physically cheating. So, the biggest change to look out for is her behaviour towards you. It’s hard to keep two relationships going at the same time, so she may be emotionally distant from you—effectively keeping you at arms length.
#4 Gut Instinct
Generally, women are much more intuitive than men. So, if you have a gut instinct that something is wrong, then you’re much more likely to be correct. It’s your subconscious that’s picking up on the many small clues, and for you to notice it must be screaming at you!
So, you think your wife might be having an affair with someone at work—what do you do?
The first thing to bear in mind, is at this stage you’re just seeing the signs. You don’t yet have any concrete evidence.
The best course of action is to find out for sure, and in a way that removes all emotion from the potential discovery. By hiring a private investigator, not only will you get the truth, you will also have time to calm down and work out exactly how you want to proceed.
There may be financial and legal considerations at stake, and if you have children, it will certainly be worth speaking to professional advisors before taking any action.
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Until next week,