Is My Husband Cheating Again?
Hey there, Steve here and welcome to this week’s private eye post where we’ll be taking a look at the signs to answer the question, “Is my husband cheating again?”
Disclaimer: This information is for general educational purposes only and may not apply to all situations — everyone is unique after all. For help with an individual situation, please contact us —the first call is free, and we may just be able to put your mind at rest!
#1 Past Behaviour Is The Best Predictor Of Future Behaviour
You might have heard warnings from the financial industry that past performance is not a reliable indicator of future performance. But past behaviour is the most reliable predictor of future behaviour.
This doesn’t always mean “once a cheater, always a cheater.” (Although research and my experience show a high probability of repeat offending!)
What I’m referring to here is, “Does it feel the same as when you knew he was cheating before?” Is he creating time and space for someone else? Do you think he’s making a solid effort on your marriage?
If it feels like something is happening, is it because the trust is broken, or is it because there are good reasons for you to feel that way?
#2 Honest-To-Goodness
Ask yourself the following two questions…
- Is your husband a straightforward and genuine guy who made a bad mistake?
- Or is he someone with a general life approach to truth as though it has a fair bit of wiggle room?
If he’s the sort of person who doesn’t hold much stock in being honest in general, then he may be putting the same levels of honesty into your marriage.
#3 Light The Gas!
If you’re permanently on edge and feel like a shadow of your former self, you may be the victim of something termed, “Gaslighting.” It’s a form of emotional abuse.
He’ll be calling you paranoid, questioning your mental recollection of events, and going through yo-yo cycles of building you up and then breaking you down.
It’s something we see fairly often when wives come to us at a complete loss as to what to do.
Read more about relationship Gaslighting here.
#4 Flirt In A Shirt
Your husband may have previously been a flirty type of guy. But if he’s cheated and you agreed to “give it another go”, then you wouldn’t expect him to carry on with his flirting behaviour.
What you would expect is him to make every effort to make you feel like you can trust him again. To heal the wounds caused by his infidelity and repair your marriage.
So, if he’s still flirting with the ladies, either he’s still cheating, or open to doing so in the future.
Summary
You might not want to bring up the subject of him cheating for fear of opening old wounds that are beginning to heal. But don’t let yourself get twisted up wondering if he’s up to no good, feeling miserable and paranoid.
If you think your husband might be cheating again, please call our team and let us find out the truth for you.
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Until next week,
Steve.