Hey there, Steve here and welcome to this week’s private eye post where we’re going to take a look over the signs of deception so you can answer the question, “How to know if your husband is telling the truth.”
Before we get started, it’s important to remember that your husband may not show all of these signs. And he may even show some of the signs of lying even when he’s telling you the truth. The best way to get a handle on this is to establish a baseline of truth-telling behaviours.
How do you establish a baseline? Simple, look for the signs when you are 100% certain he’s being honest.
Disclaimer: This information is for general educational purposes only and may not apply to all situations — everyone is unique after all. For help with an individual situation, please contact us —the first call is free, and we may just be able to put your mind at rest!
#1 Speed Of Speech
Listen closely to how fast your husband talks about something you know is true. Now, most people will vary the speed of their speech during a conversation, but liars will do the same thing in a single sentence.
The reason is the liar has to think about what they’re going to say when you have asked them a question. They start to answer your question, and because they’re having to think on their feet, they will speak slowly at first. Once they know what they’re going to say, they try to get it out as fast as possible. This means they speed up their speech after they start a sentence.
Sometimes, the increased speech speed will cause their vocal tone to waver. Usually to a more high-pitched tone.
These speed and pitch of tone changes are big giveaways.
#2 Start-Stop Sentences
A big problem cheating husbands have when they tell lies is remembering the truth and also the version of the story he’s telling you. As your husband’s mental focus switches between the true story and the fabricated version, you may detect the verbal clue of start-stop sentences. The liar literally stops what he’s saying, leaves a pause, and then says something slightly different. A lying husband may even change the tense of the sentence midway through.
Something like, “In the bar I didn’t___, I was having a beer and___”
#3 Look For The “Jerk Smirk”
Microexpressions. These are flashes of emotions that cross our faces and are very difficult to detect unless you know what to look for.
If you can spot it, the microexpression of contempt is a surefire sign of lying. It’s almost impossible to fake a microexpression, so they’re highly accurate predictors of how someone is feeling. Contempt is a one-sided raise of the lips, kind of like a half-smile but looks more like a smirk. We call it the “jerk smirk.” Liars display this microexpression when they think they got away with the lie they just told.
Most people look for honesty in someone’s face. But the best way to get comfortable in spotting the body language of liars is to look where they’re trying to get to. The feet and pointing of the whole body signal when someone is uncomfortable with the conversation they’re having. If your husband is facing away from you, then it can signal he’s trying to exit the conversation. In other words, he’s uncomfortable. A good sign he might be lying.
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Until next week,