Are We Exclusive, Or Is My Boyfriend “Playing The Field?”

Hey there, Steve here and welcome to this week’s private eye post where we’re going to take a look at the signs a new boyfriend is still playing the field.

“Are we exclusive yet?”

Sometimes you know instinctively, and sometimes it needs to be discussed. But bringing up the subject is almost like being the first one to say, “I love you.” The thoughts run through your mind, “Will he think I’m asking because I want to be exclusive?” and “What if he says he doesn’t want to be exclusive?

But once you have “the chat” and make the exclusivity agreement, how will you know if he’s keeping up his end of the bargain?


Disclaimer: This information is for general educational purposes only and may not apply to all situations — everyone is unique after all. For help with an individual situation, please contact us —the first call is free, and we may just be able to put your mind at rest!


#1 Keeping Options Open

The first thing to thing about is what does “exclusive” mean? Does it mean he can continue to message other “potentials”, in case you don’t work out?

It’s obvious that he isn’t fully committed to your relationship if he’s still using dating apps to meet new candidates.


#2 The Sound Of Silence

If your new boyfriend frequently ignores you for a period of time and then resumes communication with you as though nothing happened, you probably aren’t in an exclusive relationship.

I’m not talking about the very first date and people waiting some time before calling or texting to make themselves appear more casual. I mean “pockets of time” where they kind of go missing, whereas when they are available they respond with texts and calls normally.


#3 You Get Scheduled

Do you only see him on specific days? (The most common example  we see, is that he keeps you close during business hours — Monday to Friday.)

When he’s unavailable at weekends, and sometimes weekday evenings, it’s much more likely that he’s busy with other women. After a few short weeks, you’ll get the feeling you’re on some kind of schedule.


#4 Spread The Word

One of the key stages for any relationship is being introduced to his family and close friends. Guys don’t take everyone home to meet mum, that’s for sure!

So, if you’ve been seeing him for months, and haven’t met anyone close to him yet, it’s a sure-fire sign he’s not fully committed to your relationship.

And it’s likely he’s still playing the dating game.

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Until next week,