Hey there, Steve here and welcome to this week’s private eye post where we’ll cover the signs you’re likely to see when your wife begins a physically intimate relationship with someone else.
The signs I outline below are for a typical affair, where the wife begins by getting emotional support elsewhere. Over time, the emotional affair has blossomed, and now things are turning physical. In other words, the signs are mainly seen when she’s fallen for someone else.
Disclaimer: This information is for general educational purposes only and may not apply to all situations — everyone is unique after all. For help with an individual situation, please contact us —the first call is free, and we may just be able to put your mind at rest!
#1 Guilt Relief
While her feelings have been building during the evolution of her emotional affair, the decision to become physically intimate is a distinct crossing of a line.
She’s going to feel enormously guilty the first few times she does this — not as she’s “doing the dirty” but afterward when she gets back home.
A common sign to look for in a cheating wife then, is to watch and see if she tries to alleviate her guilty feelings.
This manifests as her being especially nice, cooking your favourite dinner, or some unexpected gesture that’s completely out of character.
#2 The Sex Change
Changes in bedroom activity are common when one of the couple is cheating — and this is no different.
Sometimes there’s an increase in marital sex and sometimes a decline. But at the beginning of her new physical affair, she’s likely to try and avoid sex altogether.
If you do have sex, it’s likely to feel quick and unloving. More a physical surrender with a “let’s get this over with” undertone.
#3 Distance Measures
As her feelings continue to build for her lover, she’s going to feel less and less inclined to work on any aspect of her marriage.
As a result, she’ll want to spend less time in your company, and will avoid engaging in “deep and meaningful” conversations with you.
Her distance measures may even feel good for you at first. She might encourage you to go out with friends, and generally take part in things which don’t involve her.
You might hear yourself thinking, “I have such an understanding wife”, or something along those lines.
Look for small gestures that are out of the ordinary.
#4 Stress Sleep
Without a doubt, her cheating will cause a turmoil of emotions to explode inside her. It’s common for a cheat to experience sleep-related issues during this time.
We’re talking restlessness, exhaustion, sleep talking and possibly bouts of insomnia as her hormones rage inside of her.
These changes last for up to a few weeks before she settles into her cheating routines.
Look for behaviour changes that signal something is different. Especially if these changes could be her alleviating guilt, or maintaining distance from you. If you suspect something is wrong, it’s best for you to call us in to investigate. That way, if it is bad news, at least you can react in an emotionally distant way with a clear head. We have financial and legal partners who can help you navigate these difficult times. And it’s particularly important you do this if children are involved.
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Until next week,