Emotional Affairs — Is Your Wife Emotionally Cheating?

Emotional affairs are the precursor to the act of physically cheating on your partner. Both men and women can be guilty of becoming tangled in some form of an emotional affair. Based on our experience, married women almost always begin affairs in this way.

Hey there, Steve here and welcome to this week’s private eye post where we’ll be taking a look at the signs your wife is involved in an emotional affair.

If you can recognise what’s happening, there will still be time for you to do something about it. Perhaps even rescue your marriage before she gets physically involved with someone else.


Disclaimer: This information is for general educational purposes only and may not apply to all situations — everyone is unique after all. For help with an individual situation, please contact us —the first call is free, and we may just be able to put your mind at rest!


#1 How Emotional Affairs Start

Typically, emotional affairs start when two people are regularly in close contact with each other.

The two most common situations are work colleagues, and couples who are friends with other couples.

Let’s take a look at the work situation more closely…

At work, the usual barriers associated with becoming friends with someone who is a “potential partner candidate” are removed.

There’s no barrier to striking up a conversation. Initially, even if both parties find each other somewhat attractive, there are no intentions to “take things further.”

It all starts quite innocently.

During the course of the daily interactions between the two parties, they naturally speak with each other and over the longer-term begin to form some kind of friendship.

All perfectly acceptable, right? Who doesn’t want to get along with their work colleagues?

As the friendship grows, they may talk about more personal matters. Not just the work they do together.

So far, so good. On the surface, there’s nothing wrong with any of this.


#2 When Emotional Cheating Begins

The first thing that needs to be identified is where the boundary crosses over from your wife having a friendly working relationship to her being guilty of emotional cheating.

It’s actually pretty simple: The line is crossed when she starts hiding parts of the relationship from her husband.

This can manifest in many different ways.

It often begins by sharing private thoughts and feelings with each other, through to telling each other about more intimate details of personal lives.

Ultimately, the friendship bond becomes stronger and stronger. Before long, your wife will be finding ways to spend more time with the other person.

For example, going for drinks after work, or doing more things together which wouldn’t be considered normal for two people who work together.


#3 Signs Of An Emotional Relationship

Now you understand how emotional affairs start, it becomes much easier to recognise the signs something is going on.

If she’s talking about her personal and intimate thoughts and feelings with someone else, it’s highly unlikely that she will do the same with you. It will feel like your relationship with each other is more distant.

She’ll be less forthcoming about what’s happening at work if she’s now emotionally involved with a person at her workplace.

It’s also likely that she’ll be “at work” for longer than she was previously.



Emotional affairs lead to increased intimacy, which leads to finding each other more attractive. At some point, it’s highly likely that she’ll cross over into a full-blown affair.

How can you remedy the situation?

You’ll need to open up and have good conversations with your wife. Put your marriage back on track by spending time with each other.

Depending on how far down the rabbit hole she is with her emotional affair will dictate how difficult this will be to rectify.

Ultimately, you need to find ways to remind her why you fell in love with each other in the first place, and that your marriage is a place of love and commitment.

If you want to find out what might be going on, call us and we’ll find out for you.


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Until next week,