Hey there, Steve here and welcome to this week’s private eye post where we’ll take a look over the signs that your wife is “going walkabout” and is about to start up something with someone besides you.
Men and women usually start affairs in different ways. Guys are usually looking for a physical hook-up. Women typically begin an affair through emotional investment with another person, often called an emotional affair. (Notice the words “usually” and “typically — I’m talking generally. People don’t all act the same!) Should you see signs of an emotional affair there’s a small window of opportunity to stand a chance of repairing your marriage.
So, that’s what we’re going to take a look at today. The signs of an emotional affair in its latter stages, where a wife is poised to take things on to a physical level. (Whether she realises it or not.)
Disclaimer: This information is for general educational purposes only and may not apply to all situations — everyone is unique after all. For help with an individual situation, please contact us —the first call is free, and we may just be able to put your mind at rest!
#1 Emotional Walkabout
Couples who are in love and care about each other share intimate details of their lives with each other. Not just the factual record of time apart, but also thoughts and feelings about life’s ups and downs. Partners support each other, and being open and honest in this way allows a married couple to keep each other going in times of need, doubt and uncertainty. Little encouragements and confirmations from each other. So, if this is missing and she’s gone on an “emotional walkabout” then it’s highly likely she’s satisfying these emotional needs elsewhere. I wonder who that may be?
#2 Sex Walkabout
When a “walkabout wife” begins her emotional affair there probably won’t be much change in the bedroom department. But as she’s about to begin to get physically intimate with her emotional fling, it’s highly likely she won’t want to have sex with you. If someone asked her why, she’d say she didn’t feel emotionally connected to you. It’s a case of the emotional side dies and then the physical side follows suit. So, if she’s gone emotional and sexually walkabout it means marriage crisis.
#4 Eye Walkabout
It’s possible to spot a liar from their eye behaviour if you know what you’re doing. Some liars increase eye contact while lying, while others can’t seem to hold eye contact if their life depended on it.
Eye walkabout in this context refers to a general lack of overall eye contact. When you’re not really interested in something it’s difficult to look at it. This is the same concept. She’s busy thinking about “other things” and it’s likely she feels some guilt in the process. Not that this will stop her affair, but at least it means there’s a chance you can repair your marriage.
#5 Social Walkabout
When it comes to the most likely lovers for your wife’s affair, two common choices are friends and co-workers. And the main reason is the initial barriers to getting to know each other are already removed. So, if she’s going to spend time socially with either of these two “possibles” then she’ll need to make excuses to account for her time. For example, she says she’s working late but you can smell she’s been drinking. This is what I call “social walkabout.”
Once she’s emotionally and physically invested in someone else, it’s going to be difficult and highly unlikely you’ll be able to rescue your marriage. If you catch what’s happening before the physical activity starts you may stand a chance, so watch out for these signs and take “marriage repair” action if you spot them.
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Until next week,