Hey there, Steve here and welcome to this week’s private eye post. With today being Valentine’s Day, I know many people will be taking their dating up a notch or two. So, today I’ll cover some of the warning signs that perhaps your date is not the right person for you.
It’s obvious when someone is completely wrong for you — they may as well wave a huge red flags as they treat you badly. The problem is, by that point it’s already too late and the damage is done. You’re already hurt.
Instead, take a look at some of the warning flags which may suggest something isn’t quite right to begin with.
Before you read on, it’s important to note I’m not suggesting you look for “monsters under the bed” but instead adopt a healthy level of self-protection. And just because you see a warning flag, it doesn’t mean you have to stop dating someone. It may be there’s a good reason it’s there.
Disclaimer: This information is for general educational purposes only and may not apply to all situations — everyone is unique after all. For help with an individual situation, please contact us —the first call is free, and we may just be able to put your mind at rest!
#1 Zero Or A Gazillion Friends
Doesn’t everyone have a healthy amount of friends? What’s normal? Well, usually it’s a couple of really close friends and a number of acquaintances.
If you take this to the extremes, some people have zero friends and some people have way more than normal.
So, what does this have to do with your dating?
If someone has no friends it might mean they have trouble maintaining a close relationship with someone. And if someone has “too many” friends it might mean you have to fit in around all the friend commitments they have. Either of these aren’t going to be healthy for your relationship in the long term.
Of course, it may be possible for someone to be low on friends, or highly socially active temporarily.
#2 No Family Chit-Chat
Everyone grew up somewhere with people who had an impact on our lives and upbringing. If a person never talks about their family, or perhaps their childhood, it might mean a number of things.
It could mean they are not taking you seriously enough to plan a future where you belong in their private lives.
It could be there is something they’re ashamed of. And it could mean they experienced some kind of trauma, which they’re not yet ready to share with you.
Again, not a huge red flag, but definitely something to keep an eye on.
There’s nothing “wrong” with being unemployed. It’s certainly no kind of character flaw.
What may be a problem is if they can’t ever seem to hold a job down and as a result can’t get their life together. Or, if they’re unemployed but have money flowing in from nefarious sources. Or perhaps, they rely on their parents to help them out.
Not yet a red warning flag but again something to keep an eye on and understand.
#4 In Serious Debt
People make financial mistakes. They make bad decisions and end up with a pile of debt. But if there seems to be no way out for them, and they don’t have “a plan” it might mean they have serious errors of judgement.
Whether they’re immature, irresponsible or bad with finances, only you can decide if it’s something that’s surpassable.
When you first meet someone and start dating you’re in the “honeymoon period.” It can be easy to get caught up in the moment but if you’re looking for something long-term, you will want to make sure of someone before you commit. Look out for potential warning signs before they become red flags, and if you’re unsure why not use our background checks service?
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Until next week,