Hey there, Steve here and welcome to this week’s private eye post. Way back in 2010 you probably remember that first Tiger Woods was discovered to have cheated with 16 women. He’s purported to have cheated again. Not long after the news broke, Sandra Bullock found out her husband, Jesse James, had betrayed her by cheating multiple times—then said, “It’s part of life.”
We disagree but this type of cheating with multiple partners isn’t just restricted to high profile celebrities. It happens a lot more than you might think. In today’s post I’ll be covering the signs that your husband might be cheating with multiple women.
Disclaimer: This information is for general educational purposes only, and shouldn’t be considered any kind of advice for you—your specific husband might display any, all or none of these signs whether he’s cheating or not. Seek our professional advice for help with your individual situation—please contact us or use the live chat feature on this page. Your first call is completely free, and we may just be able to put your mind at rest on that first call.
#1 Once A Cheater?
One of the questions I’m often asked is, “Is the phrase ‘Once a cheater, always a cheater.’ true?”
Well, like the stock market where previous history is no guarantee of the future, the same is true. But the chances that he will cheat again if he has a previous track record increase drastically.
So, if you know your hubby has cheated before, then I’m afraid you are right to suspect him if he’s displaying signs of cheating.
#2 Liar Liar Pants On Fire!
If he’s lying to you, then the chances are there’s a big reason why—most husbands don’t lie to their life partners.
It’s highly tempting when we find out that someone is lying to tell them that we know they’re telling lies. Resist this temptation. Instead watch his body language, the way that he talks and the words he uses.
That way, you can ask seemingly innocuous questions and instantly determine the likelihood of a lie. If you strongly suspect him of cheating, call us and find out for sure where all emotion is removed from the situation, so you can make a rational decision on how best to proceed.
#3 Memory Fatigue
Life is busy enough without adding in extra requirements for brain power. Unless he’s been trained in advanced memory techniques, there’s a strong chance he’ll forget what he’s told you, and the other women.
I call this memory fatigue. One of the best ways you can discover whether this is happening is to keep a journal of activity. You can find a free one here: www.penzu.com
There’s a further added benefit of keeping a journal…
#4 Time Flies When Having Fun
Dating multiple women is a tricky thing to do. It’s easier at the beginning of relationships when both people are being a little coy, and only meeting up once a week, or once a fortnight with some good excuses.
But if relationships progress, then time becomes a problem. The other women will start to expect more of your husband’s time. So, that’s the first sign to watch for—him spending less and less time with you.
If he doesn’t progress the relationships, and they’re more likely casual sex hookups via something like Tinder, then you’ll need to really nail down time via your journal. Learn more about these time slips at the link below.
Cheating with multiple women is the ultimate act of betrayal. The pain of the wounds this rupture of trust creates is immense. Please seek our help and advice if you suspect this is happening to you. We treat all calls in the strictest of confidence, with empathy and compassion. We can also recommend other professional help—lawyers, psychologists and marital therapists—where appropriate.
Until next week,