Hey there, Steve here and welcome to this week’s private eye post, where I cover the warning signs that your wife has disengaged from your marriage. In other words, there’s something seriously wrong with your relationship. You need to do something about this — or there’s a strong likelihood your wife will become ready to cheat.
About 20% of the husbands who employ our cheating partner investigations service can’t tell us exactly why they think their wife is cheating. They simply have a very strong feeling that something is wrong. Gut instinct at work.
But the truth is that men simply don’t pay enough attention to their relationship. They don’t notice the little warning signs that women use to say something is wrong. Often, husbands will tell us, “She seemed to change overnight.” This is like an obese person waking up and realising they’re fat all of a sudden. That they somehow didn’t notice their size increase until they were huge.
To complicate things even further for the guys, each individual wife will have individual ways of telling their partner something is wrong. This means it’s impossible for me to try and anticipate every body language nuance and verbal clue a wife may use to get her husband’s attention.
But what I can do is cover the symptoms of a relationship where a wife is bored. That way you can honestly appraise your situation, and choose to do something about it.
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#1 No Touching
Touch is vital to all human relationships. Human touch has a dramatic affect on health, and it starts from birth. Touch is an important part of our emotional well being, contributing to mental health as well as improving physical health.
Watch more in this video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Muvgq7f3jk8
Touch plays a crucial role in generating and enhancing love. People feel more satisfied in a relationship in which physical affection is a significant part.
(Read more: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/in-the-name-love/201405/why-lovers-touch-is-so-powerful)
Pay attention to how much touching goes on between you and your wife. Watch other couples and compare the frequency of touches compared to your relationship. Are you still touching each other?
#2 No Time
Are you living a separate life from your wife? It can be especially hard with work, kids and the rest of daily life but this is one of the most common things I see. The biggest compliment you can give any relationship is spending time with the other person. If you and your wife aren’t spending much time together each week, then you need to make time for your relationship. Here are 7 Ways to Spend More Quality Time With Your Partner
#3 No Chit Chat
It used to be that you would tell each other the little things about your day. How you felt about them. You shared your hopes, dreams and fears. You reassured each other, laughed together and were verbally intimate in every way. Now you can’t even remember if she asked you what you want for dinner, and the only communication you have are the one word grunts to acknowledge each other.
#4 She’s Happy
You might think it strange that your wife’s happiness could be a bad thing for your relationship. Well, not only is it bad, but if she’s become much happier over the last few weeks, she could be poised to cheat at any time.
Think about it. There’s no touching, no time together and no chit-chat between the two of you. For no apparent reason to you, she’s now much happier with her life. It means someone has paid her some attention, and it’s making her happy. She might not have yet cheated. But it’s definitely on the cards. This is a common time for us to get called in to investigate, because husbands notice the change, and know that it’s nothing to do with their actions.
If you look at your marriage like an outsider, what would you say about the couple in front of you? Are they in love? Are they happy together? Do they enjoy each other’s time? If you suspect something isn’t quite right, don’t hesitate to call us.
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Until next week,