Hey there, Steve here and welcome to this week’s private eye post. We get called in to investigate all sorts of situations. Some are bizarre, and some are routine. When it comes to our cheating partner investigations, ultimately the person is or isn’t guilty of cheating.
Last week we conducted an investigation into a suspected cheating wife. She turned out to be not guilty of cheating. But she was an extreme flirt. And when say I extreme, I mean right into the red overload range.
It occurred to me that there are probably lots of men who wonder if their wives are flirting, or if they’re seriously thinking about cheating. So, that’s exactly what I’m going to cover in this week’s post.
Disclaimer: This information is for general educational purposes only and may not apply to all situations — everyone is unique after all. For help with an individual situation, please contact us or use the live chat feature [when available] on this page—the first call is free, and we may just be able to put your mind at rest!
#1 Offhand Comment vs Sexual Agenda
If your Mrs makes lots of suggestive remarks to other guys then you might be used to the a racier style of banter. Even if she isn’t like this normally, an offhand comment with one of your friends, because the obvious opportunity was there, shouldn’t be cause for concern. But, if her banter feels more like foreplay, with consistent sexual overtones, then it might be beyond your comfort zone.
#2 He’s Just A Friend
Do you ever have to explain to people that someone is your friend? Most people don’t. So, let’s say your wife has a guy friend that she’s close to. Maybe (and most likely) someone she knew before the two of you were an item. Well, if you occasionally make a remark, and she says, “He’s just a friend,” then there’s something wrong. She’s either lying, or completely naive about how the other guy feels. Couple this with some flirty banter between the two of them, and there’s a recipe for disaster.
#3 In Front Of You
Having a chat, and enjoying the harmless fun in some friendly and flirty banter is probably a “no foul” case. As long as both sides understand it is harmless fun. And, if it’s in front of you, then it’s much more likely that both parties are partaking on that basis.
#4 Hidden From View
Contrast this with the element of betrayal you would feel if the flirting were going on behind your back. The general rule to apply is, if you wouldn’t do it in front of your partner, then you shouldn’t do it. Anything that’s being hidden from you is likely going to make you upset. And if she knows that, then she’s a cheat looking for heat, and not a flirt in a skirt.
The first thing to do if you are worried about your partner’s flirting is to sit them down, and talk with them about it. You must let them know that it’s making you uncomfortable in your marriage. They may not even realise that it’s causing you such concern.
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Until next week,