As private investigators in Melbourne and Sydney, we see our fair share of cases where a spouse or partner is cheating. What we notice is that if you think your partner is cheating, something has likely tipped you off, even if it’s just a gut instinct. We’ve compiled a list of things we see crop up all the time when investigating cheating partners. While no two cases are exactly the same, these are some patterns we see in the men and women that we discover are cheating.
Signs they might be cheating:
They’ve been holding back emotionally
In a marriage or relationship, one of the key things you rely on each other for is emotional support. You vent to them when you have a bad day, you laugh together over the things you enjoy, and overall connect on an emotional level. If your partner is suddenly holding back, or seems unfeeling and distant, this could indicate that they are meeting their emotional needs elsewhere, or are about to. This could be in the form of a full blown affair, or even emotional cheating.
Their routine has changed
Unless something has changed recently, like a new job or moving house, a sudden change in work hours, regular social outings or routine could be an indication that they are using that time to cheat on you with another. Examples are staying back late at work when they never used to, suddenly increasing the amount of time with their friends without you, or changing the way they do something, like driving to work when they used to catch the train. Basically any sudden change in their usual routine is a warning sign that they could be spending that time with someone else. This information is very helpful when running a cheating partner investigation, as our detectives can focus their surveillance on these times.
They don’t seem to care anymore
If your partner suddenly seems apathetic, or doesn’t want to fight or try to resolve any issues, it could mean that they’ve given up on the relationship. If they’re shrugging things off, not participating in the household or just generally ‘checking out’ of the relationship, they this apathy can be a real warning sign that their energy is going into another relationship.
They suddenly care a lot more about their appearance
If you notice a sudden increase in your spouse or partner in their appearance, this could indicate that they are trying to impress someone new. Has she started doing herself up, dressing up and spending more on her looks? Has he started wearing nice outfits and doing his hair? New clothes? New perfume/aftershave? Unless you’ve suddenly rekindled the romance in your relationship, chances are your partner is doing this for someone else.
You’ve caught them lying to you
You might think small lie means nothing, and sometimes it is, but if you know they’re lying about things, especially if it’s about their whereabouts, this is a major red flag that they have something bigger to hide. When someone is coving up a big lie like an affair, they need to tell a lot of little lies to make it happen. If your partner is spinning this web of lies, it can be almost impossible to figure out what’s really true. An external party, such as a Melbourne/Sydney private investigator, is usually your best bet in finding out the truth from the lies.
They’re suddenly more romantic
This may seem strange, if they’re cheating on you, why would they be more romantic? But if your spouse has suddenly become more romantic, it could be a cover up for the affair, trying to throw you off and avoid suspicion. It can also sometimes be a guilty conscience because they know they’ve done something wrong.
If you suspect that you have a cheating partner or cheating husband / wife, our detectives can help you find out the truth. You have nothing to lose, call us today on 1300 721 715 or email firstname.lastname@example.org to see how we can help.