Hey there, Steve here and welcome to this week’s private eye post.
One of the services we offer is an individual background check, and many people use this once the first few weeks or months of dating have already taken place, and the relationship is deemed to be progressing. (The service isn’t always provided to the person in the relationship. Frequently we’re called by a parent, or other concerned relatives.)
We sometimes uncover some surprising information. People convicted of fraud, people who are in other long-term relationships and even people who have been previously charged with rape.
And so, in today’s post, I wanted to offer some advice which might help you stay safer in the dating game.
Disclaimer: You should take as many precautions as possible when meeting up with new people. You are incredibly vulnerable when you’re alone with a stranger – yes, even if you have been chatting for the last three months online, he’s still a stranger – so you should be especially vigilant.
#1 Check-In Partner
Tell someone what you’re doing. It can be a friend or family member, but someone should know where you’re going and what you expect to be doing. In an ideal world, a couple of your friends can also be at the same place at the same time. They needn’t be pointed out to your date, but at least you’ll know you have a road to safety should you need it.
At the very least, you should be checking in with your ‘check-in partner’ and newer phones, such as the iPhone, can share your location.
#2 Date Location
When you’re deciding what to do on your dates, you have to keep safety at the forefront of your mind. Most women are good at this when it’s the first few dates, and that’s great. But remember, you can never ‘ungive’ someone your address.
#3 Mouth Safety
OK, this isn’t about some kind of oral disease but instead keeping an eye on your food and drink. Never let it out of your sight. And if you do have to leave your drink for some reason, get a new one when you return.
#4 Check-Out System
I know it’s romantic to meet someone and find out about them when you’re speaking with them. But that’s also the unsafe way. The safe solution is to have some go-to websites you can use to dig into someone’s past. Follow these quick background check , and also consider performing an in-depth background check
#5 Up Close and Personal
Discovery is a crucial part of dating. It’s also the exciting part. But just because you’re sharing doesn’t mean you need to give out too much personal information. This is how scammers work, and it’s surprising how much information people will give out without realising the potential damage it may cause.
#6 Time’s Up
Stick to the time for your date. Easier said than done but you need to stop yourself getting carried away in the moment. At the end of your time together, get into your own transport (or a friend’s car) and leave.
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Until next week,