Hey there, Steve here and welcome to this week’s private eye post.
There are always signals of troubled times ahead, and it shouldn’t come as any surprise that the ladies often show 10-metre high, neon warning signs to their partner before they cheat.
And it’s equally valid that the majority of men are oblivious to them. Somehow guys have a real banner blindness to their relationship issues until it’s too late.
Whenever we take on a cheating spouse or girlfriend case, we always ask the men if he’s experienced any of the signs in today’s post. In the majority of cases, they typically mention one or two of these.
Disclaimer: As always, the content in this article is for general information only, and shouldn’t be considered advice. For help with an individual situation, please contact us or use the live chat feature on this page.
#1 High-Frequency Mentions
OK fellas, you’re going to have to listen to her a bit more closely than usual to be able to spot this one.
It’s normal for everyone to talk about their daily experiences, what they’ve been up to and who has done it. But if they start talking about a particular person more often than usual then it’s something to pay attention to.
Let’s imagine you say “I’ve heard the latest George Clooney movie is fantastic, we should go and see it”, and she responds, “I was saying the same thing to Ben earlier today”, then there’s a reason she mentioned ‘Ben’.
Perhaps she was talking with Ben about the movie.
But if you later mention something different in conversation, and she brings up ‘Ben’ again in an unrelated way, there’s cause for concern. The higher the frequency of name mentioning, the more she’s thinking about him.
“I read in today’s news, that eating Avocados in a smoothie can make your skin glow in summer” and she responds, “Ben makes this awesome smoothie at work with berries, greek yoghurt, ice and apple juice”.
#2 New Friends She Hasn’t Mentioned But Seems To Have Known For A While
When the relationship is no longer ‘new’, and you both know most of each other’s friends, it’s rare that she’ll introduce you to someone new. It will happen from time-to-time. Someone from your partner’s past will make an appearance, and that’s all good.
No great shakes.
But if she’s met someone new since you’ve been together, and met them more than once, but never mentioned them before, this can be a big warning sign. One of the 10-metre-high neon ones I talked about earlier.
#3 Girls’ Night Out
I’m not saying that your girlfriend can’t enjoy a girls’ night out. But if it’s happening fairly often, and your girl is out until the morning hours, you may need to examine the situation. Most girls in a happy relationship don’t stay out all night. And they try to avoid these types of nights in the first place, as it’s highly unusual for a group of girls to stay together for the whole night anyway.
#4 Brings Up Reasons To Fight
Something whiffs. No matter what you say or do, you seem to be arguing every hour of every day. About nothing really.
At least, nothing that matters.
Some people create the situations they want so that they can justify their actions later. They even do it subconsciously. So, if she’s creating conditions of emotional upset, you have to wonder if she’s doing it so she can find solace elsewhere sometime soon.
Girls give off plenty of signals that they’re not happy in a relationship, and there are those which signal an intent to cheat. Paying attention will help you spot these clues, so you have time to do something about it. (Google ‘how to keep her happy in a relationship’ or similar for advice.)
If you think she may already be cheating, take a look at these articles, 5 Signs She’s Cheating, Straying Alert: 5 Signs Your Girl Is Going Elsewhere, or Body Language: 7 Sure-Fire Signs Of A Cheating Spouse to see if she’s displaying any of the signs of cheating.
If she is, you may want to get in touch with us for help.
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Until next week,